Of Smoking/Drinking and Cursing.

These are the most common not-so-bad habits in the present world.

Its strange how when u do certain things again and again they dont remain as bad as the very first time
Are they bad or are they not... i dont know.
Let me present my views on these ..

Smoking:


Drinking:


Cursing:
(Mind your language)


(...gettin updated yet)

All the hue and cry about 'Reservations':

'If u dont deserve, get reserved'

(frankly, i didn actually 'wonder' bout this topic. Wht made me include it here is the number of mails i got frm different ppl i kno bout why reservation r bad n all)

(comin' soon)

Being the boss...

.. aint a walk in the park.
(comin' soon)

Ladki kyun, na jaane kyun...

... ladkon si nahi hoti.



Over 1291 weeks, 9050 days, 216,960 hours, 13,017,600 minutes, 781,056,000 seconds since i arrived on this planet n gals r still a big '?' .


Chk these i got in my mail:
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Also:

How a BOY withdraws cash from ATM:

1) Parks the car
2) Goes to ATM
3) Inserts card
4) Enters PIN
5) Takes money
6) Drives away...

How a GIRL withdraws cash from ATM:

1) Parks the car
2) Checks makeup
3) Turns off engine /put handbrake
4) Check makeup
5) Goes to ATM
6) Hunts for ATM card in the purse.
7) Inserts card
8) Hits Cancel
9) Hunts in purse for chit with PIN written on it.
10) Inserts card
11) Enters PIN
12) Takes cash
13) Goes to car
14) Checks makeup
15) Starts car
16) Stops car
17) Runs back to ATM
18) Takes ATM card back
19) Back to car
20) Checks makeup
21) Starts car
22) Checks makeup
23) Drives for 3/4 mile
24) Releases hand brake


From my friend: There are only 2 kinds of gals : good and very good.

From RHTDM: whenever a guy would be able to understand even a single woman, the world would turn heaven.


(... continued)

X'pectations: the make/break of a relationship

(lemme start poetically for a change)

So much of what we live goes on inside–
The diaries of grief, the tongue-tied aches
Of unacknowledged love are no less real
For having passed unsaid.What we conceal
Is always more than what we dare confide.
Think of the letters that we write our dead.

Thts 'Unsaid' frm from Interrogations at Noon by Dana Gioia.
(n thnx Rutu for referrin it to me. I like it whn u do it n lemme tell u - ur contributions r always considerable. Thank you)

(keep comin' bak)

Priorities - gotta decide/follow these to live gud...

Lemme start with one of thos gud fwded stories for a change here...

Rocks, Pebbles and Sand
A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him.

When class began, wordlessly he picked up a large empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks - rocks about 2" in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.

The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The students laughed.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

"Now," said the professor, "I want you to recognize that this is your life. The rocks are the important things - your family, your partner, your health, and your children-anything that is so important to you that if it were lost, you would be devastated. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else. The small stuff."

"If you put the sand into the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and your time on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out dancing.

There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal."
"Take care of the rocks first - the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

(yet to be updated)

Breakups- all bout ém:

(Disclaimer: U gotta b in a certain kinda mood to go thru this. Wht i mean is - i really dnt wnt anyone complainin its depressin/euphematic n all)

(Since i like to proceed logically, ) Lets start with love first.

love(l-uv)
n.
A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

This has been the most fullfillin depiction@ love

Wht i thnk is : Love is (like) bull-shit - its all a waste unless spread.

nw braggin bout love is so stereotype, n unlike me as well. Love has been so misused as a word that i almost feel afraid of saying 'I love you'. For first, I love you is a biig commitment. And then I'd rather show it off in my own special ways then telling that i love you. I almost feel like P B Shelley whn it comes to love

One word is too often profaned

For me to profane it;

One feeling too falsely disdained

For thee to disdain it;

One hope is too like despair

For prudence to smother;

And pity from thee more dear

(xcerpted frm To- by Percy Bysshe Shelley)

bt i thnk breakups n love go hand-in hand. Breakups, i've been told, are a totally unnessesary by-product of this thng called love ; As Leonardo Di Caprio puts it “To believe in love, to be ready to give up anything for it, to be willing to risk your life for it, is the ultimate tragedy.”

But then they r there.
(hence i chose breakups as the topic here)

And ironcally enuf, breakups r the mor in thing these days. Altho nt among the mor talked about publicly ones.
But off-late we hav mor people expressin bout it more openly.
(At the risk of makin one of my competitor popular, js kdin there, )Chk out chetan bhagat havin his main character in one night @ the call center goin thru a breakup.

Lets hit it straight on the topic...

breakup: (BraK-up)
n.
The discontinuance of a relationship, as a marriage, courtship or a friendship.

Pictorially, this is wht it cud mean.

One of my anonymous acquaintances says whn in love you might try to change the person as u wnt to behave and beleive, as an object, n thts not tru love. In tru love u accept the person as him/her. Like, whn u dont wnt to sacrifice with other person and u give up.

(For no particular reason,) I beleive that every single soul on this terrestrial sphere wud hav gone thru a breakup once or atleast felt the insecurity that cud arise on the occurence of one.
And everyone know its nt a favourable thing to happen. In fact callin it unfavourable is such an understatement. A breakup is wht u cud wish for ur worst enemies, if any.


Once u actually go thru it u kinda realise u've been closing ur eyes till now. Wht mor u even pray/wish/beg/wnt to go bak to the same blind world as u've been before.

Its a great learning experience - you mature overnight; bt then who wnts to grow up anyways- one would rather stay immature! . (This is my frend adi's tak on it) One would start talking philosophically and all once he/she hs been thru it. (wonder if theres one of the uncertain reasons for this tiny winy blog thing of mind ?)

Out of nowhere the equation of ur value system gets disturbed(mostly for no fault of urs).
The most memorable and cherishd experinces turn into painful memories, though they js be themselves.

Hw/@ wht stage its done also decides its the acuteness of it. fallin of frm the first floor wud hurt and fallin off frm Mt everest may nt,bt its evn worse right.

Lets do it the cause-effects way:

CAUSES:

1) Premature falling in love/immaturity - you dont wanna belive ever that you did it.

2) Status(social/financial/caste etc), parents, relatives etc. - These dont/shoudn't matter much in todays age.

3) Natural phenomena - Losing a loved one completely - absolutely tragic.(sometimes i wonder which one is worse having her/him alive and missing or otherwise)

4) Sudden/Miscellaneous - well these rarely happen in general. They happen not suddenly. They are there all the time, But love-blind that one becomes while its all happening, you dont wanna beleive/bother that there is something like that happening. Untill u actually realize that not only was it happening but also it became the cause for the bad bad 'happening'. But too late then it is.

EFFECTS:

1) Being afraid to fall in love all over- thats me. Kinda - doodh ka jala, chhach/lassi bhi fook-fook kar peeta hai. Worst thing to happen. I aint sure if thats good.You wanna love but not fall in love.

2) losing hope/interest etc - this is the inevitable 'devdas-effect' of the breakup phenomena and lives long/short depending on your own personality and your support system. Also its said its extreme with females. Girls can never forget their first love they say, but then whos asking them to do that. With normal guys its acute but might end in sometime, as if guys are not too busy.

You wanna keep living in past of brooding bout the future. Worst, you keep on doing it all the time. Living in the present is what becomes most difficult. Frankly what one should do is do what they like even if they dont like to do at that particular moment.

3) Extreme steps - chronic depression - effectively comes when the 'effect 2)' lasts for too long or in the earliest phase of breakup or after a while like and intense aftershock.

4) Cursing oneself or the other one - cant help it
5) In long run, since its an eye-opener, you become all the more mature/understanding. But its hard to say if its worth it. If u incline towards something creative it works for the best. Check out Amitabh winning the booker prize for writing 'Baghban' in the movie while being seperated from hemaji.


Agony and ecstasy of being(not being) in love(anymore):

The idea of pure love should be nurtured. A girl and a boy’s world comes crashing down because their love is either rejected or ignored. As an individual you should remind yourself that your lover is only one aspect of that pure idea. Your love encompasses to many others: your mother, father, sister and brother . They are all forms, all waves in the ocean of love. A human being has an enormous capacity to love and he is capable of loving many people in his life.

So don’t get depressed or think of ending your life just because a minuscule part of your huge potential called love is refused by your lover.

Love is like a ladder that helps you attain higher and higher levels of loving consciousness. It could start with one person and end with totality. Love is painful sometimes because it is not real love. Real love is when one does not expect anything from the person you love. There is bound to be disappointment and frustation if you lay down specifications for your love. The selfish attitude that arises out of attachment is the root cause for love becoming painful. We never seem to be satiated with the return that the other offers.

Even if the journey of love is not smooth, go for it. If you don’t dive into the river of love, how will you reach the ocean?

Life would not be a pilgrimage without the pain & suffering wrought by love. Offcourse, love is going to be painful but one would reach higher levels of consciousness with the help of it . Creativity reaches its zenith when in love. It is out of agony that ecstasy is born . You might want to reach the ecstasy stage without going through the pain of loving but it just not possible. You have to go through dark night to be able to appreciate the sight of a beautiful sunrise. So, don’t be afraid of going through agony because it ultimately leads to bliss, bliss which is the purpose and goal of life. Don’t feel guilty when you have indulged in a relationship because there is an intense possibility of love arising of it. Love is a higher experience than lust. Even if lust is mud, the lotus of love could bloom from it. The right physical chemistry is the beginning not the end, a means to attain higher levels of conciuosness.

(thanks my dear freind Shwetabh for managing to get time to write this article and sparing me 45 minutes for the mammoth task of typing, and that is after over 45 days of constant, well almost nw, pushing)

Read this: love is too precious to pass.

thanks Rutu( who fondly hs got her MSN nick- snowflake, which is also the name of a dolphin in a certain movie) for providin me this wonderful one-liner. It works.

(keep chkin for updates)

To end it on a truthfully positive note: Love might be a big mistake, but its absolutely worth doing!!!

Self-confidence n Attitude:

i emphatically beleive these mor or less summarise success... (but thn success is very relative term)

(Comin' soon)

The ecstasy-agony of being jobless/living alone:

(this is here coz i've been thru it mor or less wilfully)


Lets c a quote by Leonardo Di Caprio:
“Most of the time I do feel like I need someone else when I'm alone. But I can still get by with just my own company and that makes me a stronger person.”
&
“Most of the time I do feel like I need someone else when I'm alone. But I can still get by with just my own company and that makes me a stronger person.”

(comin soon)